It is really hard sometimes in a psychic-client relationship to maintain a distance. After talking to someone about intimate details in their lives, it may look natural to become friends with them, and to a degree you are, however there are several traps that could destroy the connection.
It isn’t uncommon for a client to ask their reader for their personal phone number or ask them out for coffee. To the client, their psychic is often perceived as a reliable friend that gives good advice, someone who isn’t too busy to listen to them, rather than lecture them- at least this is how a fantastic psychic should make all their clients feel. So what changes if the psychic and the client slip into the friend zone? Lines get blurred and things change.
Paying for any kind of psychic reading is an exchange based on a couple of unwritten rules, which we can saw form a kind of an unspoken contract. The reader promises to use their gifts, wisdom and insight to help their client with whatever obstacles they are facing, have faced, or may face in the future. The other side of that contract is that the customer will balance the scales with money as means for the exhaust of your psychic energy. Once that bond has crossed in the friend zone, that contract is torn up and often can’t be mended. A new dynamic occurs between the parties and it leaves to getting free readings, because after all how can you charge your friend any money?
This isn’t the same as giving promotional or thank you minutes. These minutes get to encourage new clients to use the psychic’s services relatively risk-free and if your psychic really wants to give a little to your client chances are they can send a couple of minutes. The expectation is still that the client will call back and pay more income beyond their free minutes, but sometimes clients believe they are able to require free minutes without spending any money. The reason is usually an economic one, even though this is quite understandable, it then nullifies that unspoken contract since the exchange isn’t balanced at all. Would the people who require free readings walk into a cafe or restaurant, and suggest that they have got nothing but want to be served a smaller meal? Not likely, however some restaurants may offer discount coupons for a appetizer or drinks at the bar, but rarely do they offer coupons for free of charge meals.
The other thing, when crossing the professional line between a psychic and client, that comes about is that the psychic becomes too involved with the clients life and also this leads to some unexpected consequences. First, the psychic may begin giving advice simply relying on their gift for answers. They develop opinions on subjects and provide these instead of distancing themselves from the person and their situation and going for a true psychic reading. This is really only natural because as a friend the psychic can have an individual stake in the resolution of the problem.
This brings us to the 2nd point of why psychics cannot cross the professional line – part of that unspoken contract is that the psychic will provide accurate and unbiased information. They are sitting on the outside looking in, but being a personal friend moves them to the inside. Having a different point of view is why clients reach to psychics in the first place and they want that outside perspective. This cannot happen if your client is also your BFF.
Thirdly there is always the danger of romantic attachment. People will talk to psychics about the most intimate specifics of their lives as well as their most sacred thoughts. They reveal their inner soul in such a way, that they will often never do with anybody else in their life. This generates a sacred bond that needs to be respected, but sometimes this connection can be mistaken for as a romantic attraction. This should be avoided at any cost because if the line is crossed between a psychic and a client, there is often a violation occurring that will really hurt both psychic and client. The trust that’s instilled into the connection isn’t only destroyed but its destruction can lead to deep emotional problems for the customer. If the psychic conducts themselves as a professional at all times, this would never happen.
There should be some form of a connection or bond between the client and the psychic to ensure the clarity of the reading, but it also must make the psychic to keep things in the right perspective and follow the ethical code that protects both client and psychic. The friend zone only leads to wrong readings, albeit free ones, and the danger of romantic involvement.